Archive for April 15th, 2013


Continuing with our Counseling series this week

As a pastor with a young congregation, the topic of relationship, courtship, love and sex needs to be understood biblically.  I have started this year to use the following seven questions for pre-courtship Counseling.  I think it’s helpful to begin precourtship counseling even when someone is seriously considering a girl to be in a relationship with since emotion can run high and you want to address concerns early on since relationships often leads young people to unnecessary heartbreaks, spiritual compromises and sexual immorality.  I find that it’s not enough to just preach on this regularly but it’s also vital  to assess one on one where an individual is at which drove me to make this counseling sheet.

Below is the worksheet I use.  I have them spend some time answering it.  As an instruction for the counselor, what I’m looking for with these questions is to identify any answers and thinking that is unbiblical and then correct them.  What Biblical answers they do have I want to encourage them to uphold and also discuss what an accountablility plan looks like.


Purpose: To be conscious of timeless biblical principles concerning character and beliefs for relationships (Questions # 1, 2 and 3) and also whether it’s the case between couples in relationship (Questions # 5 and 6).  Questions are also design to encourage Christian growth in relationship, in terms of identifying what one needs to work on in the area of sanctification (Question  #7) and protection for purity (Question #4).  Questions #1-4 are also good questions for singles not in a relationship to answer ahead of time as well.
1) What is the quality and characteristic of a godly husband?

2) What is the quality and characteristic of a godly wife?

3) What doctrinally (theologically) should I look for in a potential spouse?

4) What should be my physical boundaries during a relationship for the sake of purity?

5) Does he have these characters and quality?  On this basis, is he ready for a relationship?

6) Does she have these characters and quality?  On this basis, is she ready for a relationship?

7) What do I have to work on in terms of my character?


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westminster theological seminary biblical counseling

Westminster Theological Seminary has no doubt been tremendously impactful in churches across the world beyond the Conservative Orthodox Presbyterian Church (OPC).  Besides Reformed Theology, the Seminary has also also introduced to the church at large in other denomination Presuppositional apologetics (as systematized by their professor Cornelius Van Til) and also Biblical Counseling through Jay Adams who taught there from 1963 through 1983.  Westminster Seminary also houses the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF) which has been training people in Nouthetic Counseling since 1968.  Many professors in Biblical counseling in other seminary do have their doctorate work done at Westminster.  No doubt it would be appropriate to see what resources WTS has made available to the Public.  The Seminary has free audios available of lectures concerning Biblical counseling over at Itunes University!

Here are the topics the lectures covered:

1.) Dynamics of Biblical Change

2.) All Theology is Practical Theology

3.) When People Go Insane

4.) Command: Resist the Devil

5.) Dealing with a Person’s Past

6.) Union With Christ: Dynamic for Change

7.) Temptation

8.) Homosexuality

9.) Union With Christ: God at Work

10.) A.D.H.D Diagnosis

11.) Therapy and Faith: Integration or Inundation?

You can access the audios at ITunes University by clicking HERE.

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